Monday, November 24, 2014
As Easy or As Difficult as You Believe It Is
In the past, the dragon's way to do things was the only way possible. Change was something I could not conceive and I didn't take it well. People should change, the world should change, circumstances should change but not me.
By the way, it is not easy to observe oneself. Often, I don't realize I have an attitude problem but until I see someone else with that attitude. Ironically, my bad attitude in another person always bothers me. I learned that if someone does something that bothers me, sometimes it is because the person is showing attributes I don't like of myself. I've also noticed as one grows old, there is a stronger tendency to reject the new stuff. We refuse to learn and find adaptation more difficult. We want things to be "as they were" because the way they were is always better. That's what my grandmother used to say. Then my mother said it and now I've caught myself repeating it. And I wonder, things were better in the past for real? Or is it just that we have such a hard time accepting change and adapt to it that we NEED to believe past was better?
We need to justify our inherent reluctance to change. At least, I do... or did.
To achieve what I've never had, I'll do things that I've never done. One of them is reinventing myself and embracing possibilities. Because past things were not always better (or maybe they were), but the best is still to come, if we allow ourselves to believe so.
Today is the second anniversary of the Dragon Cave. Last year, we threw a huge fancy party for all my regular dragon friends (more than sixty.) My on-line presence this year has been erratic so, as it is natural, the number of visiting friends dropped dramatically. No big party today. What about me setting a fire and you grabbing a bag of marshmallows? We can sit by the fire and watch the dwarves play to the Cave's Got Talent.
Thanks to each and every one of you, who kept visiting the dragon each time there were smoke signals. You are the ones that keep the Cave open, the dwarves employed and the dragon's blogging fire burning. Father Dragon celebrates you. We celebrate your loyal friendship and the gift of your time. Thank you for spending a bit of your life here with me.